Love is in the air
Ok, the kids made it to Greece safely. They are texting me on my cell because they can’t get a phone connection right now, but it’s all good. Thanks for the love, you all. The Lord hears the prayers of the righteous (Proverbs 15:29).
But what’s really been on my mind is love and marriage. I am such an advocate of healthy and loving marriage. It sounds so…conservative, corny, old-fashioned. Well, most of that is true. I know what family has provided our culture through the ages. And we need strong famiies to pull through these times of prisons looking better than schools, through times of major cities being left desolate after factory jobs move overseas, leaving proud, hard working folks to their own demise. Being from Detroit, being from a family that was only one generation out of Mississippi, I believe whole, full families can pull us out of a lot of messes. Ok, kerplunk…I’m off of my soapbox. I got a little distracted from the original intent of this post. What was it again?
Oh, yeah, love and marriage. I believe that good people need to hook up with other good people, work hard and have great children. (The children get upgraded to great because the parents are doing the work to make themselves better and passing on those improvements to the children. You wit’ me?) Anyway, I get excited when I see my friends, many of whom are not married/no children/super-fabulous in their own right, falling in love like little kids. I’m just a romantic. See society tells women that you’re done if you’re not hooked up and with children by age 40, but I believe that that’s not fair. We are living longer, so some of these “rules” need a little bending. Better yet, I’m encouraging everybody to go bend some rules and my friends, although intially resistant, have benefitted from my advice ‘to go and make love work.’
To my girlfriend, who is writing his name in her notebook and practicing her “new” name in cursive, enjoy every moment of it. Stop trying to overanalyze and second guess everything. Why does the innocence of love get jacked by the obsession our society has with sex and money? I’m so tired of these shows where folks “play” dating and getting together without any real regard for the true sacrifice and reward of a committed relationship. It sounds yuck to some, but I’ve been bumped and bruised and I swear I’m better for it within my marriage than I was in the same situation with a brother I was just “kickin’ it with.”
Love is in the air. Demand it. Don’t settle for anything less. Just get in the game. Don’t live your life on the sidelines or even worse, outside of the stadium wondering what’s going on. Live life on the edge and nothing will take you to the brink, to the edge of vulnerability, passion, fear, pain, joy, intimacy than love. Don’t believe it? Try it and let me know what happens.
July 21st, 2006 at 3:58 pm
Glad the kids made it safely! Enjoy your time with just the little one and the hubby! I firmly agree that families are the answer and I love and have always been an advocate of continually learning, continually bettering, passing that on, making great children and also teaching them that good people can make mistakes and it’s okay. It’s all about the love! You can stand on that soap box all day long girl!!
July 21st, 2006 at 9:02 pm
Amy, you’re the best. I sometimes feel preachy when I tell people about it, but from my heart, I know how great and wonderful love is and how it can transform the world. PLUS, when we are alone too long, we get set in our ways and then we become too…like ourselves to be any good to anybody else.
July 22nd, 2006 at 1:55 am
Strong families (and strong marriages) truely are the foundation for strong people. Amening about love, age, marriage, and learning to live passionately without fear. Life is just too short to not experience all the love that you can stand.