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Son teaches mom new ways to bond

I believe that each parent should develop a one on one repore with each of their children. Unfortunately, it is difficult (not impossible) when you have 5 children (or more) and they are close together in age. The difficulties have been more evident as I slowly come from under a rock (correction: from under a baby crib. ) and start to do more things that are independent of my children. Blogging, podcasting are among those things that the kids have a hard time understanding when they want to “be with mommy,” hence my falling off the wagon in both. The times that your kids actually WANT to be with you is precious and it’s REAL special when it comes from an unexpected child.
Like most parents, we love all of our children, but in different ways. Take for instance, my oldest son. He was MY boy when he was llittle. I took him everywhere and he didn’t make a peep. His hair was so long that I had to dress him like a lumberjack just so people would KNOW he was a boy, but then something happened. He became a toddler!
He put ALL of the T’s in Terrible Two, Tumultous Threes. I mean, we fought. He has such an amazing will, such a strong resolve for a friggin baby. I’ve shared with you the bathroom story at Target and the restaurant situation and those are the tip of the iceberg. So, when he grew out of that phase, it was challenging for us to recover, you know, be back to mommy and her big boy. I miss it and I’ve wanted it back, but I didn’t want to push it.
I’ll never forget the time that he told me that he didn’t want me to call him by his nickname anymore.
“Mommy, could you not say that anymore?”
“Why? I’ve called you that all of your life.”
“Well, I’m older now and my name is fine.” (He was friggin’ 5!)
“Ok, honey, if you say so.”
I was crushed. I came up with this goofy names and goofy rituals so that we could have our own thing-just me and them. But…things have started to change.
This young man is now 10 and just recently decided that he needs to tucked in. Yup…tucked in. He and his brother get in the bed at night and scream, “Mommy, we’re ready for tuck in.” I go in, straighten up the covers, tuck them in on both sides, fall down on them (like an amateur wrestler) and them kiss them as much as they’ll allow, then give a zerbert to boot. They LOVE it! If I’m busy, they wait for me. How cool is that?
But to tip it off this week, my oldest chose to be with ME instead of go to the library. Now, if you don’t have nerdy kids, then you don’t understand. My son told a librarian that he could LIVE there and I would just have to bring him food once a day. Now do you get why him choosing me was so HUGE? Anyway, we were all alone in the house and I asked him what did he want to do.
“Mommy, you want to play a game.”
“Sure, honey.” (Trying to curtail my excitement)
“Why don’t we play checkers?”
“Cool, but I don’t know where all of the parts are?”
“No prob. We’ll just play online.”
“Huh?”
“Yeah, just go to Yahooligans and we can play checkers.”
Not exactly what I had in mind, but you know what, I had so much fun. He was on the desktop in the basement and I was on my laptop in the living room. We were yelling…”Aww, man. I didn’t see that.” to “Ah-ha. Gotch. King Me.” After a couple of games of me beating him (he’s a good player…he gave me a run for my money), he decided he was going back to watching some stupid show on YouTube.
“Thanks honey for spending time with me.”
“Sure. Next time, I won’t let you win.”
He still is a bit much, but he’s my lil man.

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